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Thinking About Making The First Move?


I read an article recently that talked about women asking men out. Men appeared to find it flattering and some even seemed to prefer it. Unfortunately, when I put words into practice I failed miserably.

Don’t get me wrong, I am a liberal woman, and I believe in equal rights. I feel that it’s okay to ask a man out. Why not? I mean, what could it hurt? However, I had never asked a man out myself. No male species that crossed my path thus far induced the drive to even consider initiating more than a mere conversation.

Of course that was bound to change, and it did. Early in my career I was on temporary assignment at a law firm. On my very first day I met “Adam”, a gorgeous, poised Associate Attorney. Though I was struck by his looks, I didn’t really give him much thought; the work took all my concentration.

Over the next few days I’d catch him looking at me with more than professional interest. He’d make excuses to come to my desk and silently flirt. My only conclusion is that he was interested in getting to know me.

I wasn’t really sure what to do at first, but when I realized that the attraction went both ways the solution was simple. I was only going to be there for two more days, so I had to act fast. On my last day there, I gently pulled him aside and asked him out for lunch.

Given our obvious attraction to each other I was stunned when he hesitated in responding. Then he said he’d “get back to me”. Well, lunch time came and went and suffice to say I ate alone. I gave him the benefit of the doubt and assumed he had to work through lunch.

Before departing for the day, I left him a voice mail message that included my home phone number. The plan was to wait until he called me. A week passed, and I heard nothing. I didn’t want to become a pest so I gave up my quest. Obviously, I had read this gentleman wrong or maybe he was just one of the few men who did not like women who made the first move. Maybe he was just a very flirtatious.

=Whatever the reason for his lack of response, I’m now a bit more tentative about making the first move. Although Associate Attorney wasn’t exactly rude, his lack of response basically had the same effect. I’d rather hear a white lie like “I’m seeing someone” or “I’m gay” than the wall of silence I did encounter.

Maybe guys really do like women who make the first move and maybe I just picked the wrong guy for my initiation. Chances are I’ll do it again, but I’ll make sure of his interest. Let’s face it no one likes rejection. So all you women out there who want to take the bull by the horns, good luck!

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I read an article recently that talked about women asking men out. Men appeared to find it flattering and some even seemed to prefer it. Unfortunately, when I put words into practice I failed miserably.

Don’t get me wrong, I am a liberal woman, and I believe in equal rights. I feel that it’s okay to ask a man out. Why not? I mean, what could it hurt? However, I had never asked a man out myself. No male species that crossed my path thus far induced the drive to even consider initiating more than a mere conversation.

Of course that was bound to change, and it did. Early in my career I was on temporary assignment at a law firm. On my very first day I met “Adam”, a gorgeous, poised Associate Attorney. Though I was struck by his looks, I didn’t really give him much thought; the work took all my concentration.

Over the next few days I’d catch him looking at me with more than professional interest. He’d make excuses to come to my desk and silently flirt. My only conclusion is that he was interested in getting to know me.

I wasn’t really sure what to do at first, but when I realized that the attraction went both ways the solution was simple. I was only going to be there for two more days, so I had to act fast. On my last day there, I gently pulled him aside and asked him out for lunch.

Given our obvious attraction to each other I was stunned when he hesitated in responding. Then he said he’d “get back to me”. Well, lunch time came and went and suffice to say I ate alone. I gave him the benefit of the doubt and assumed he had to work through lunch.

Before departing for the day, I left him a voice mail message that included my home phone number. The plan was to wait until he called me. A week passed, and I heard nothing. I didn’t want to become a pest so I gave up my quest. Obviously, I had read this gentleman wrong or maybe he was just one of the few men who did not like women who made the first move. Maybe he was just a very flirtatious.

=Whatever the reason for his lack of response, I’m now a bit more tentative about making the first move. Although Associate Attorney wasn’t exactly rude, his lack of response basically had the same effect. I’d rather hear a white lie like “I’m seeing someone” or “I’m gay” than the wall of silence I did encounter.

Maybe guys really do like women who make the first move and maybe I just picked the wrong guy for my initiation. Chances are I’ll do it again, but I’ll make sure of his interest. Let’s face it no one likes rejection. So all you women out there who want to take the bull by the horns, good luck!

This article was developed by the staff of the Datepad.com internet dating company where you can find hundreds of professional dating articles. You are welcome to reprint this article – but get your own unique content version here.

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I read an article recently that talked about women asking men out. Men appeared to find it flattering and some even seemed to prefer it. Unfortunately, when I put words into practice I failed miserably.

Don’t get me wrong, I am a liberal woman, and I believe in equal rights. I feel that it’s okay to ask a man out. Why not? I mean, what could it hurt? However, I had never asked a man out myself. No male species that crossed my path thus far induced the drive to even consider initiating more than a mere conversation.

Of course that was bound to change, and it did. Early in my career I was on temporary assignment at a law firm. On my very first day I met “Adam”, a gorgeous, poised Associate Attorney. Though I was struck by his looks, I didn’t really give him much thought; the work took all my concentration.

Over the next few days I’d catch him looking at me with more than professional interest. He’d make excuses to come to my desk and silently flirt. My only conclusion is that he was interested in getting to know me.

I wasn’t really sure what to do at first, but when I realized that the attraction went both ways the solution was simple. I was only going to be there for two more days, so I had to act fast. On my last day there, I gently pulled him aside and asked him out for lunch.

Given our obvious attraction to each other I was stunned when he hesitated in responding. Then he said he’d “get back to me”. Well, lunch time came and went and suffice to say I ate alone. I gave him the benefit of the doubt and assumed he had to work through lunch.

Before departing for the day, I left him a voice mail message that included my home phone number. The plan was to wait until he called me. A week passed, and I heard nothing. I didn’t want to become a pest so I gave up my quest. Obviously, I had read this gentleman wrong or maybe he was just one of the few men who did not like women who made the first move. Maybe he was just a very flirtatious.

=Whatever the reason for his lack of response, I’m now a bit more tentative about making the first move. Although Associate Attorney wasn’t exactly rude, his lack of response basically had the same effect. I’d rather hear a white lie like “I’m seeing someone” or “I’m gay” than the wall of silence I did encounter.

Maybe guys really do like women who make the first move and maybe I just picked the wrong guy for my initiation. Chances are I’ll do it again, but I’ll make sure of his interest. Let’s face it no one likes rejection. So all you women out there who want to take the bull by the horns, good luck!

This article was developed by the staff of the Datepad.com internet dating company where you can find hundreds of professional dating articles. You are welcome to reprint this article – but get your own unique content version here.

Related Reading:

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